I’m happy and blessed in so many ways – I love the vast majority of work I do, have a lot of the 21st century skills that apparently are critical to being valuable at work, love my husband, have pretty wonderful relationships with my kids, live in one of the best places on earth.
But monetary wealth isn’t an area where I feel rich.. or literally AM rich. And if you don’t believe that being a victim is useful at all, then you have to take personal responsibility for everything in your life, rather than blame anything external…
It’s a bit of a bummer. So my financial situation is my fault, my result, my failure, no one else’s.
When you’re young, it’s all about your ‘potential’. You have time! But what about when you end up in your 40s and are nowhere near where you’ve imagined you’d be?
What have I missed? What should I do now?
- Moving from country to country slowed down increases in income, as you have to start over each time.
- Having my husband unable to work full time from 2003 on, put me in the position of primary earner, which I’d never really planned for. I never WANTED to be a CEO, or wanted to relocate for a job.
- Working remotely for smaller companies limited my ability to advance internally – there was nowhere else to go within the organization.
- Working remotely meant I wasn’t a known element in the local tech scene – completely invisible. So no reputation, no colleagues to vouch for you as you pitch for available roles.
- Tech companies like to hire entry level and grow internally. I have TOO much experience for entry, NOT ENOUGH experience for VP/Director roles, so very few fits.
- My fear and terror at running out of money, and not being able to see where else I could contribute. – great. Now I’m creating it.
Am I a puzzle piece that doesn’t fit anywhere?
I’ll let you know when I get to the end of this tunnel and have an answer. There has to be an end . It can’t last forever!
“Failure is not an end. If you give up when you fail, you’ll never learn anything. Instead, look at failure as an opportunity, as the beginning of a new journey. If you do, you’re much more likely to try again and succeed at something else.” (From https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/10-important-career-lessons-most-people-learn-too-late-bernard-marr)